God helps those who helps themselves

I'm not a Christian or mildly religious but I believe in this saying. Although instead of putting my faith in the old man upstairs, I would put it to society. For people growing up in the first world, where the unemployment benefit is higher than the student allowance and free education is available for 13 years followed by interest free student loans, I refuse to pity anyone in society. It's harsh and I'm aware that there will be those who need help and support to get through even in a first world society due to disabilities or extreme unfortunate events. I guess the people I want to target are those who prefer to hide under the shell of "dysfunctional family circumstances" or "lack of opportunities". If you're healthy and fit, I see no reason why you cannot succeed. This country gives everyone the right to EQUAL education, we take discrimination seriously and those within a "disadvantaged group" are already given priority despite my lack of understanding in why this is so.

There are those who are fortunate enough to be born into a well of loving family, and you're journey in life is smooth. You get the best education, you go to university and you get a high paying job. Life is simple. However, I would say most people aren't that fortunate. Parents get divorced, father loses job, company goes bankrupt....These things happen and they can really change a child's life forever. But I don't believe that means that you deserved to be pitied. I don't believe that means you deserve extra. I don't believe that means you deserve to sit on your ass and wait for someone to feed you because life is so bloody hard. God helps those who help themselves.

I look down on those people who at the first sight of pressure and unfortunate events fall and refuse to stand up again. They want for people to come and pity them, to help them and to steer their life in the right direction. On the other hand, I look up to those who despite bad experiences take life in their own hands and change it for the better. What society you are born in, what family you belong to is fate. You can't change it. What you can change is how you live your life. Success belongs to those who despite hardships and pain, choose to endure, walk that extra mile and make it happen. For those who want to take the easy way out, you deserve all the pain and suffering.

I believe that as long as one tries, they will succeed. I don't believe I should ever have to pity someone who doesn't try and blames it on life. Take the easy way out and you'll always be worse off. And guess what, you deserve every second of that life.

When being "blonde" = intelligent. Yeah Right.

I dislike it when people justify their actions to their lack of intelligence. Especially women. Men are generally more self conscious about their image but too many women in today's time still want to be seen as "weak". My definition of stupid is lazy. No, you're not too dumb to understand this, you're just too lazy to use your brain. There is a fundamental difference. I don't understand what people get out out of this, probably just someone else sorting out your problems for you. But maybe it's just the control freak within me talking, I don't find this appealing at all. How could someone else know what's best for you? Might as well give up your right to an education, to vote, to be employed too. It's not like you value them at all. Going back to the ideal life of staying home and looking after the kids seem to be what they're looking for. But then, it's not. They want to have an education (what is the point when you're "dumb" anyway?) they want to be paid, they want to vote. But more importantly, I guess they also want some guy to chuck his credit card at her and say "Well darling, I sincerely believe that you are a free and intelligent women, but my love for you is so great that I want to pay for all your expenses. Put it on the credit card, buy all the Vuitton and Dior that you want. It's ok, because you're still an intelligent woman, people will still respect you." Yeah Right. That was pretty much a Tui ad. If some guy is actually saying that to you, he's lying. Inside his head, you're just an ornament. You know why? Because even you yourself have convinced yourself that you're stupid.

It's also shameful how we allow these people to get away with it. A girl looks at you innocently, shrugs and says she doesn't understand. And as the knight in shining armour, of course you run to her aid and solve all her problems for her. You feel proud, she feels happy. The world is perfect, right? But why do we just accept that she is really stupid? Why don't we challenge her? Why is it that when children tell us that they don't get it, we challenge them to think and solve the problem for themselves, we don't do the same to women? Maybe we want women to behave that way (Scandel)? Being no feminist myself - in fact, I'm almost anti-feminist - this behaviour still affects me. Just because I don't believe that women and men are really equal doesn't mean that I believe women are inferior. Biologically, men are better than women at certain things. Biologically, some people are smarter than others. However, that does not mean that those who are less endowed with the blessing of intelligence should use that as an excuse to be "spoiled" but men and to not take responsibility for anything that they do. They should, to the contrary, spend more time to try and understand things, to be able to carry on an intelligent conversion, to prove to the world that you actually deserve respect.

People who believe that the world should be kinder to them because they are no intelligent should get a kick up the ass by society.